Everyone in online dating talks about how important the profile photo is. We try to act like looks don't matter as much as what's underneath – and although that's true in the long run, you're lying to yourself if you think looks don't matter at all. Picture yourself shopping. You don't purchase the products with subpar packaging; you go for the ones that look nice, regardless of which one is actually better.
Like it or not, we are all judging and being judged online. As you atte ...
When we talk about dating, it's often referred to as a game. We even call some people “players.”
But as much fun as games are, it isn't the most effective metaphor for online dating. Real success comes when you put your power suit on (mentally) and treat online dating like a business. You are the product, and the best way to sell that product is to run a strong marketing campaign.
Think of your profile as a sales pitch. The right one will attract the target customer an ...
1. They stopped communicating. Conflict went unresolved, needs went unexpressed, and affirmations went unspoken. If good communication is key to building a healthy relationship, the lack of it can surely dissolve one.
2. They took each other for granted. It’s easy to assume that love is unconditional and to subsequently get lazy with each other. When respect and kindness disappear, so can the love.
3. Expectations weren’t met. In the beginning, it’s easy to accommodate your partner’s needs and wishes. Over time, however, people often default to “just being themselves” and stop bending to the expectations of their partner if those expectations are not shared ones.
4. One of them discovered something new about his/her partner. Betrayal can radically alter how someone feels about their partner. Discovering that your partner has hidden something from you, cheated on you, or behaved in a way that’s inconsistent with who you thought they were can do irreparable damage to the relationship.
5. Overwhelming jealousy took over. Yes, it’s reassuring to know that your partner wants you for himself. But when jealousy takes over, there’s no room for trust.
6. The relationship wasn’t built on a solid foundation. If the relationship started poorly, moved too fast in the beginning, or was the product of an affair, it’s likely not rooted enough to withstand time or overcome any real relationship obstacles.
7. Incompatibility. As a couple gets to know one another better — and the initial fireworks die down — they may discover that their lifestyles, priorities, and values don’t align.
8. Boredom. Or exhaustion. The relationship has either lost its spark or become too much work for one or both people to handle.
9. A major life event changed things. She’s given birth and he no longer sees her as a lover, just as a mother. He got fired and suddenly retreats into depression and refuses her help. Instead of embracing life’s adventures together, some couples crack under the pressures of hardships or the unknown.
10. It wasn’t love in the first place. Lust can disguise itself as love. Once the honeymoon is over, however, it can also leave a relationship feeling empty and lacking.
Have you fallen in…and then out of love? What was the reason?
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Most of us know Gandhi’s famous quote: “Be the change you want to see in the world” – but how many of us practice these words of wisdom, especially when it comes to dating? More often than not, instead of seeing what we can change in ourselves, we are looking at our dates – judging and criticizing and wanting them to change.
Let’s face it – dating is rough. It requires patience, persistence, and a positive outlook. Again and again. And while you might feel more patient ...
Think you’ll have a better chance of meeting a new love through friends rather than Tinder? According to a recent survey by website Mic, you’re probably right.
Mic, a news website catering specifically to Millennials, decided to get to the bottom of dating apps and online dating to figure out how people in relationships are actually meeting. As it turns out, for all the buzz of Tinder – (and good news for the online-dating averse) – more couples have met through friends ...
The most successful dating apps are based on visuals, and typically pull your photos from Facebook to create your dating “profile.” This allows potential dates to swipe left and right, rejecting or showing interest – depending almost entirely on the photos you have posted.
Now dating app Glimpse takes things one step further. Acknowledging t ...
The days of the regular ol' smiley face are long gone. America has upped its emoticon game and we're officially living in the Age of Emoji.
Match.com is back with another installment of its annual Singles in America study. This year, they surveyed a nationally representative sample of over 5,600 US. singles aged 18 to 70+ years and one of 2015's hot topics was emoji use.
A popular T-shirt worn by tennis players says, “You’ve Met Your Match.” This is definitely true, as this particular athlete could be a great fit for you. That’s because they have certain skills and qualities that make for exceptional romantic partners.
1. Tennis players know it takes both skills and passion to win. That’s a winning combination for romance.
2. They respect boundaries. Tennis players know that going out of bounds will not score points … just like in relationships.
3. Tennis is mostly a gentleman’s (and woman’s) sport. The notorious rants of John McEnroe notwithstanding, the game retains its emphasis on fair play and good manners.
4. You’ll have your own tennis tutor. Whether you’re just learning or looking to improve your game, your partner will be happy to guide you.
5. The game teaches players to manage their emotions. Matches can be maddening, especially when the competition is fierce, but wise players learn to channel their frustration into focused play.
6. Tennis can be a fun and inexpensive date. Grab your rackets, a bag of balls, and head to the nearest park or school.
7. Tennis can also be a fancy, expensive date. Pamper yourselves with weekend at a resort, with private lessons followed by trips to the spa.
8. These athletes know how to persevere. To become a skilled player requires long hours of practice and training.
9. Playing doubles teaches teamwork … obviously a very useful skill for long-term relationships.
10. They are physically fit. This sport is among the best for providing exercise.
11. Tennis is a healthy way to blow off steam. Your partner will relieve stress by whacking the ball around.
12. The flattering attire. Tennis outfits accentuate a player’s best attributes.
13. Hitting the ball back and forth is good practice for communication. After all, healthy dialogue requires taking turns and staying focused.
14. Tennis will help your love stay young. For many, this sport is a lifelong passion, with countless senior citizens regularly hitting the court.
15. When you’re not playing tennis, you can go watch matches together. Pack a picnic with strawberries and champagne—very romantic.
Are you excited about the new Tinder Plus service that has rolled out in the U.S.? Don't get too carried away – turns out, if you’re 30 or older, you’ll have to pay more than your younger single counterparts.
Tinder is charging users of its premium service only $9.99 if they are under 30, but those 30 and older have to pay $19.99 per month for the same service. In the U.K., the pay gap is even larger.
Tinder has been testing pricing and features of Tinder Plus in vario ...
Just when you think you've got this dating thing figured out, you enter a new stage of life and everything gets flipped on its head.
Life in your early 20s was very different from life in your late 20s. Both still have some sense of freedom and finding yourself, but things change as you approach 30. You're more comfortable with who you are and have a better idea of where you're going. You're older (duh) but also wiser, and that means a shift in who and how you date.